If someone does not find you desirable, they will find you ease to accuse. Most people do not know this issue, but the most beautiful of handsome people around us tend to get away with mistakes. They can do a shoddy job at work, and they get a pass.
Some beautiful ladies got a second look at their exams after the marketing was done because they impress the professor nuts with their cleavage and smile.
You can not change this aspect of human behavior but who are you not to use it to your advantage. People are going by their internal judgment of the situation and other people. If a girl you like seems too hot, then you will probably self-jeopardize your capabilities of being with her.
On the other hand, the same rarely happens when a girl like you, only that you might be ignoring the shit out of her. The important thing is to learn the dynamics of the sexes and to make them work to your advantage.
You can change, but you have an inherent problem with the thought of what you are doing being right. It might or it might not. Try not to think of it that way. You should be concentrating on tips that work. Of course, a person who is already earning interest from investments knows the importance of making those investments. However, try telling that to the broke and in a debated guy, and it all seems foreign.
I know these things feel foreign to you since the last time you had your way with people and impressed them was before Jesus, which is to say never. Get back your cool and bring back the old days when you did not care about anything except for what you want.